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When it comes to girls, it’s simple, and we aren’t as complicated as you think. (Or maybe it’s difficult.) Personally, we agree that we just want guys to treat us well.
But here’s some advice for you guys this Valentine’s Day. Even if you’re not in a relationship, it’s probably a good idea to go by these rules in general.
- Don’t be a jerk.
That’s a pretty good place to start.
- Having a relationship doesn’t need to be sexually charged.
If you can’t come to terms with the boundaries within your relationship, then you shouldn’t be in one. You’re not ready. Learn your own boundaries and your partner’s boundaries. Everyone should have their own boundaries, even you own. Set your own in the relationship so it can flourish.
- Communication is Key.
Be able to communicate what you are feeling. Talking to each other is important. Be able to have more difficult conversations, and talk to your significant other on a deeper level.
Respect our opinions.
You can’t classify us by types of girls– like “basic” or “prude.”
You’ll make mistakes, and we will too. Apologizing and forgiving are necessary. Learning from mistakes is how you avoid making them again.
Don’t keep things to yourself. Holding grudges and not talking about something that needs to be talked about is one of the fastest ways to end a relationship. Don’t be scared of voicing your opinion.
If you and and your significant other are in a fight, you have to talk to them, no matter how mad you are. Nothing is going to get fixed if you are silent and passive-aggressive. It’s essential to talk. This goes for both parties.
You need to have a way to communicate properly. Don’t get so angry and upset that you explode. If someone is in the relationship is mad or upset, talk.
- You can’t be trashy.
Look like you take care of yourself.
Don’t spray on a half a bottle of cologne– girls really hate Axe.
On dates, wear nice, but casual clothes. Don’t go over the top.
- The “Dreamboat”: (Qualities that make you seem like an overall better guy)
Keep your hair nice. Take care of yourself– both mind and body. Be able to take care of yourself first before you try and take care of anyone else.
A sense of humor– that’s what gets us. Hit us up with those puns. A great personality in a 16-year-old guy is a definite plus.
Get your priorities in check. We’re not saying your relationship should be your whole life, either– just that you need to have interests.
For Valentine’s Day:
Personally, we love the movies.
Flowers will always get you extra points.
And at the end of the day, keep it simple and low-key. Also, stuffed animals are the cutest.
- What you don’t know: (This is just mostly what we see in a guy, but a lot of girls will say the same thing.)
Ninety percent of the time, you’re not as cool as you think you are.
Boys who like kids are adorable.
It’s kind of weird when you look exactly like all of your friends. Don’t get the exact same haircut as all of them.
A nice tan is a nice plus– but only in summer, don’t spray tan.
This is probably really shallow, but if your hair is really long then it’s not going to work out.
Remember– Girls are different, not all of them are going to want the same things. Know your girl. And don’t worry – there’s someone out there for everyone.
Cupid shares a column each Valentine’s Day, but remains anonymous.